While you may know that you and your current spouse are no longer right for each other, you may not be so clear on how to shift your communication style toward your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. Effective communication is essential for moving through divorce at a steady speed rather than bumbling and stumbling at every turn. 

See what Marriage.com has to say on the matter. The right tips can keep you on the right foot during your divorce proceedings. 

Cool down 

When communicating with your soon-to-be-ex-spouse, do so with a cool, calm head. Speaking emotionally in the heat of the moment can lead to unnecessary issues and poor decisions. 

Establish boundaries  

Talk with your spouse about how you both want to communicate. For instance, would you rather interact face-to-face or through email or text messages? Also, decide if there may be certain days or times when you make communicating with each other a priority. 

Use a business tone  

No matter your chosen method of communication, do what you can to maintain a business-like tone for all interactions. Treat your divorce as more of a professional matter and less of a personal matter, removing as much emotion as possible from the equation. 

Focus on the present  

Depending on your marital history, you may have a lot of unresolved feelings, ones that your current spouse may not know about. Rather than let these feelings dictate decisions made during divorce, concentrate on the here and now. If you want to resolve issues or feelings, do so in a therapist’s office, not in a legal setting. 

Communication is key to any relationship, even one currently ending. Learn how to communicate what you need out of a divorce rather than what you want.